Jocelyn and Steve had a simple wedding at a private rental home in the Malibu Canyons.
“From the get go, neither of us wanted a big wedding. Having been to many of them before, those weddings seem to be more about the spectacle than the actual ceremony. We wanted to do something special for us, and our families,” says Jocelyn.
With their dogs at their feet, the couple exchanged hand-written vows on a rooftop deck overlooking the Pacific Ocean. Following the ceremony, the couple, along with their 24 guests, enjoyed a gorgeous four-course gourmet meal cooked by a family friend.
The next day the couple held a BBQ for friends and extended family who weren’t at the wedding.
Thanks to Connie Lyu for the exquisite wedding photos!
Jocelyn, 33 & Steve, 34
Wedding Date: October 8, 2011
Number of Guests: 24
Wedding Cost: $10,000
Wedding Ceremony Location: The rooftop deck of a rental house in the Malibu Canyons overlooking the Pacific Ocean
Wedding Reception Location: The great room of the house
Why did you have an intimate wedding?
First and foremost, it just seemed to fit our personalities. From the get go, neither of us wanted a big wedding. Having been to many of them before, those weddings seem to be more about the spectacle than the actual ceremony. We wanted to do something special for us, and our families. From there, it was a no brainer. We thought a long weekend with family, and a small ceremony would be perfect for us.
What are some of the challenges that you faced planning an intimate wedding?
Having divorced parents and step parents, the fear was, the more intimate, the more potentially awkward. We really had to remind each other that this event was about celebrating us. We realized as scary as it was, a lot was out of our control. We would set the stage and it would all unfold as it may. A big challenge was leaving out the few close friends or extended relatives that we may have wanted, but were faced with “we can’t invite this person and not this person”. This was a recurring problem that could have taken the guest list from 24 to 125 a few times. Since there was no wedding venue and no coordinator, everything was left for us to plan. The venue, rentals, decor, catering, planning the ceremony … it was a lot of work!! Especially at 5 months pregnant – intimate does not equal easy!
Was it difficult to pare down the guest list?
Once we decided we were inviting immediate family only – no.
Did you have any ‘issues’ with the small guest list from friends and family? If so, how did you address them?
Because what we were doing was so unconventional, we had to remind those with questions that it was what we wanted. We found that a lot of people don’t often think out of the traditional “wedding box”. A small guest list gave us the freedom to have the wedding we wanted to have. I think it was hard for our family to grasp this concept at first, but they are all wonderful and very supportive. They all wanted us to have the wedding we wanted. We had a BBQ the next day where we were able to have those friends and extended family that we didn’t have at the wedding.
What were the highlights of the ceremony?
We had a civil ceremony. The reverend was a long time family friend who actually married Steve’s mother and step father four years ago. It felt small and special. We wrote our own vows and were able to read/cry them to each other. Everyone present had a close and special connection to us. There was not a dry eye in the house. Our dog slept in front of our feet through the ceremony.
What were the highlights of the reception?
The reception consisted of the four-course-gourmet dinner cooked by Nora, a friend. Everyone sat down and was served in a beautiful candle lit room just after sunset. We had one long table where it felt like everyone was celebrating and sharing in our joy with us.
What was the best thing about having an intimate wedding?
Being able to really enjoy every single person present, their interaction with each other, and knowing that everyone there was celebrating our love. We were blending our families and it truly felt that way. I enjoyed including every one in the planning over the days leading up to the wedding day. The rental house acted as the “home base”. We had some family sleeping in the house and some in local hotels. Together, we spent a lot of time setting up, cooking, planning, and decorating. There was a lot of quality time and bonding.
What advice do you have for couples who are considering an intimate wedding?
Don’t be afraid to think outside of the box. Your wedding should be what the two of you collectively want. You have to make the decision, go with it and have no regrets about it. The possibilities are endless. Have fun!!