Ten More Reasons to Have a Small Wedding

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By Lizzie Smithson

Christina has her own Ten Reasons to Have a Small Wedding. I thought I’d offer 10 more good reasons to snip, snip, snip.

1. Rush Order

With fewer people and details to oblige, you’ll have the option to cut down your time-line. Want to be married by this time three months from now? Not if you have 150+ guests, you don’t.

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2. Spare Feelings

With a small wedding, you have an easy out to tell people who aren’t invited. If you’re having a large gathering, it gets a little harder to tell them why they didn’t make the cut.

3. Have a Lavish Honeymoon

It’s inevitable during the planning process to, at some point, want to speed up to the honeymoon. Have the getaway you pictured in your mind with more money available to spend and less worry on your brow while you enjoy the time away.

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4. Leave the Option for a Destination Wedding

Whether your dream is getting married on the beach or eloping at city hall, you leave the option open with a smaller guest list. Asking 150+ people to travel or fit within city hall is a bit trickier.

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5. Have a Moment Alone with Your New Spouse

Stop. Soak it in. It’s not something many couples get to do on their wedding day because of stress, obligatory conversations and details they have to manage and take care off. Take a moment to enjoy each other on your wedding day, because that’s what it’s all about, right?

bride and groom first look - intimate, small wedding

6. You Don’t Have to Make Small Talk with Mere Acquaintances

You don’t care to meet up with that one friend you had from way back when (even though she is on your Facebook friends list)  – especially on your wedding day. Your second cousin that you haven’t seen in ten years? Not interested. And what about that handful of co-workers who bore you to tears? With a small wedding, there is no pressure to include them.

7. Keepsake Photos

With too many guests, it could be something like herding cats to get the keepsake family photos you will someday want. If you don’t want them now, mom & dad, grandparents and children someday will.

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8. Go Green

Save the rainforests! Save the polar bears! Save the cheerleader…Wait. There is an exceptional amount of waste that is involved with weddings. With less people, you’ll have less paper to send out (saving you from writer’s cramp in the thank you note arena as well), less food, less trinket favors and less waste all around. You’ll also have a pretty fool-proof out for those that question their lack-of-invitation…because who will argue with a polar bear?

9. You Can Cut Loose

With your friends and family in a comfortable setting, you’ll feel free to dance, play music you actually like and celebrate like you just got married.

dancing bride at small, intimate wedding

10. It’s a Wedding, Not a Reunion

There’s no need to pay $30-$100 per head for dinner to rekindle old friendships. It may seem like a good idea when you’re planning, but when you’re sharing your first kiss as a married couple and Suzy-in-Everyone’s-Business stares at you with that I’m-totally-tweeting-this smile, you’ll wish you had chosen closer friends and family to share your day with.

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lizzie smithson of love your way Lizzie Smithson is a public relations graduate and wedding/design blogger planning a $10,000 (or under) wedding with her graphic-designer fiancé.

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  1. Posted by Sarah on February 1st, 2011 at 2:07pm

    These are all great reasons for a small wedding, Lizzie! I'm certain I've talked about several of them as reasons we're keeping things small, too.
  2. Posted by Ariella on February 1st, 2011 at 6:18pm

    This are all wonderful reasons to have a small wedding. There's a part of me that wants a small wedding but then when I get around my big boisterous family and my wonderful friends, there's no way I could ax any of them. It's partly because they're all so much fun and because I'd have tons of Italian guilt. ; )
  3. Posted by Lizzie on February 1st, 2011 at 7:48pm

    Sarah - Thanks so much, we are trying to keep these in mind while we make even MORE cuts on our guest list...sometimes the guilt of family is hard to believe it will be worth it...but I know it will.

    Ariella - I understand...Isaiah and I BOTH have gigantic families...but since moving 1000 miles away from everyone, it's become easier to realize who would actually care to see us walk down the aisle and who would just be there to reconnect and party...I only want the first group at the wedding!
  4. Posted by Christie O on February 2nd, 2011 at 12:55pm

    Cheese-on-rice Lizzie, I feel like you and I are cosmically linked in some way, except you are two steps ahead of me. I have been mulling over the same concept! Great points and great advice. Love it girl!
  5. Posted by meg on August 29th, 2011 at 1:02am

    We had a relatively small wedding (under 100) and I couldn't agree with you more- loved being able to have the time to see everyone the day of the wedding. :)
  6. Posted by Jen on March 16th, 2013 at 8:59pm

    You see, THIS is why I want a small wedding. And, those who love you will understand not being invited...although you've got some good easy outs here just in case they do. :) You've made some really great points, even reminding some brides of things they might otherwise forget, like taking time for intimate moments with eachother, it's environmental impact, and (of course) leaving the option open for a destination wedding - how great would that be?!
  7. Posted by Carla on March 28th, 2013 at 4:13am

    I love reason #10: its not a reunion. I have lots of family, most of them I haven't even met in person (mostly communicate though Facebook, etc). Spending money to accommodate them seems outlandish to me plus the awkwardness of meeting for the first time (some cases its been 20 years if we've even seen each other before). That's what family reunions are for.
  8. Posted by Evie on June 6th, 2013 at 5:40pm

    I plan only on inviting my parents my fiance, siblings, and that one special uncle. We dont have any grandparents and only one sibling each. It will be pretty great not having to worry about what my friends care about. Personally I couldnt care less about what they think, because I'm not marrying them, I'm marrying my fiance.
  9. Posted by Manny Spoelstra on January 9th, 2014 at 2:12pm

    I love the idea of a small wedding. Very manageable, cost relatively lesser and I find it to be a lot more happier and more solemn.
  10. Posted by Christine March on March 12th, 2014 at 4:35pm

    Excellent points but #10 really made me chuckle. So true: a wedding is not a reunion. Keep the guest small and intimate. Focus on those people who truly mean the most to you as a couple.
  11. Posted by Sara on August 7th, 2014 at 4:55pm

    Love that photo of Grand Tradition's Arbor Terrace! I used to coordinate for them. Would love to see some rooftop or garden weddings!
  12. Posted by Marcos Pereira on October 29th, 2014 at 1:37pm

    I do agree with all those sugestions and coments.
    We got married shortly after dating for three months.
    Our wedding recepition was held in a little chapel followed by a dinner for 20 close relatives.
    That was the best thing we did ! We still remember every single little details from one of the most important moments of our life.
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