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Green Wedding Week: A Review of the Green Bride Guide

The Green Bride Guide

It’s green wedding week here at IntimateWeddings.com. To kick things off, I’ve reviewed Kate Harrison’s The Green Bride Guide: How to Create an Earth-Friendly Wedding on Any Budget. Stay tuned for more eco-friendly wedding posts throughout the week!

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You will not save the planet by having a green wedding (headlines like this one from the Toronto Star bring my blood to a rolling boil.) Using soy ink on your recycled paper invitations, and opting for a second-hand dress is not going to save Mother Earth, but if you are an eco-conscious individual who happens to be planning a wedding, green nuptials are a natural choice. After all, a wedding is one of the most significant events in one’s life and it usually reflects the values of the couple saying ‘I do.’

That said, just because you are environmentally conscious does not necessarily mean you know how to navigate the foreign land of veils and vendors with a ‘green’ compass. And that’s where Kate Harrison’s The Green Bride Guide comes in.
The Green Bride Guideis a comprehensive guide to help eco-conscious couples of all budgets make green decisions in all phases of wedding planning. The book covers everything from finding a ‘green’ venue to choosing the most eco-friendly wedding favors. In every chapter, the green choices that are offered are divided into price categories ranging from the least expensive to the most expensive.

According to Harrison, the size of a wedding has the biggest influence on how ‘green’ it is.

“The size of your wedding is the most influential factor affecting both the cost and sustainability of your wedding. Generally speaking, the smaller the wedding, the less expensive it will be and the less environmental impact it will have. A fifty-person wedding at $100 a head is $5,000. A two-hundred person wedding at the same location is $20,000 and has roughly four times the environmental impact,” she writes. {Chock another one up for small weddings!}

Harrison stresses the importance of communicating your vision of a green wedding to each of your wedding vendors. She includes an anecdote from her own wedding that highlights the importance of clear communication.

“My new husband and I were waiting with our friends for the arrival of what was supposed to be a biodiesel shuttle, when up pulls a pimped out (faux-leopard interior) SUV limo – pretty much the least environmentally friendly form of transportation you can imagine … We had been unwittingly ‘upgraded’ by our well -intentioned but environmentally uninformed transportation company,” she writes.

Harrison also discusses ‘greenwashing’ and advises couples to be vigilant about choosing vendors. Terms like ‘green’, ‘eco’ and ‘environmentally friendly’ are not regulated by the US government and can be used by anyone. (Just think of all the ‘organic’ shampoos on the shelves that are loaded with parabens.) ‘Green’ has become a giant money-making industry and oftentimes it’s difficult to know who is legitimate and who is simply out to make a buck. Harrison’s book and website help couples choose legitimately sustainable businesses that the author personally recommends.

One of the most important points that Harrison makes is that a green wedding is not only about making eco-friendly purchasing decisions, but also about spreading the gospel – in a non-preachy way.

” … in the same way that a wedding is an opportunity for you and your fiancé to showcase your tastes, it is also a unique chance for you to showcase your values.”

When it comes to creating a green event,  it doesn’t have to be all or nothing: trying your best is what counts, says Harrison. And The Green Bride Guide: How to Create an Earth-Friendly Wedding on Any Budgetwill help you do just that.

Got Writer’s Block? Hire a Wedding Speech Writer

bride giving a wedding speech

Does the thought of writing a speech for your husband-to-be make you panic? Why not hire someone else to write it? I read an interesting article in Maclean’s about the growing number of wedding speech writers.   Brides use ‘em.  Grooms use ‘em. So do the moms, dads and wedding parties.

Another article in the Globe and Mail discusses the growing demand for wedding speech writers. Judging by the readers’ comments it looks like some people have a problem with it. They think it takes away from the sincerity of the speech. I think they have a point, however speechwriting can be a serious source of distress for some people. Not everyone is a wordsmith. Just like not everyone can bake and decorate a wedding cake. Or take dazzling wedding photos. That’s why we hire professionals.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with enlisting a professional to help you organize your thoughts and present them  in an articulate and entertaining fashion.  My only advice would be to make sure you find a writer whose style you enjoy. Read previous speeches and ask for references.

If I had the time I could really dig being a speechwriter. Now, if only one could hire someone to GIVE the speech.

Photo: Ralph Heinze Photography

Dare to Dazzle with a Wedding Sparkler Exit

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wedding sparkler exit behind

wedding sparklers kissing

I’ve always loved pyrotechnics. Maybe it’s because when I was little my older brother made fireworks (we won’t get into the part about the stink bombs) in our basement in his spare time. Or maybe it’s just because they are so beautiful and full of drama.

Whatever the reason, I can’t help but get a little excited about the idea of adding a little pyrotechnic pizzazz to a wedding. I’m not talking about roman candles or burning school houses (we’ll save those for other occasions). I’m talking sparklers. The bigger, the better.

Is there a better way to make a grand exit and get dazzlingly dramatic photos? I think not.

If you are considering sparklers, here are some tips:

  • Wrap the sparklers with ribbon, and hot glue some matches onto the ribbon. Hand out sparklers with your wedding programs.
  • Keep a few galvanized pails full of sand handy for your guests to place their hot sparklers in after they are done with them.
  • Instead of giving out matches, light one sparkler and have a designated sparkler lighter go around and light all the sparkers. This way, guests won’t have to fumble around with matches.
  • There are lots of places online to purchase sparklers, including Sparklersonline.com.

Photos: First photo, Stephen Seward; Second photo, Swensen Photography; Third photo, 68 Photography

Let them Eat Pie: Wedding Pie a Tasty New Trend

wedding pie a new trendMove over wedding cake – there’s a new and less expensive alternative: wedding pie.These deep-dish brides prefer flaky crust to buttercream and fruit-filling over fondant. And they love the variety that goes with all things pie. Cherry, berry, pumpkin, pecan, apple, and coconut cream are just a few flavours that are showing up on the wedding dessert table.

According to these pie-loving brides guests love it.  And so do grooms who really love the idea of leftovers.

Why are pies a perfect alternative to wedding cake?

They are less expensive.

Not everyone can bake a wedding cake, but when it comes to pie, you’re bound to find someone who’s adept at rolling out dough.

They’re pure comfort food. Pies give everyone the warm fuzzies. They remind us of our grandmothers and of a time when things were made from scratch.

They encourage guests to mingle, especially if you put a different type of pie at each table. This encourages wedding guests to find the table with their favourite flavour and chat with guests at the same time.

They’re different. Everyone expects wedding cake. Who expects delicious, mouth-watering pie?

You can highlight some of the local fruits in your area. Bake them when the fruit is in season and freeze them or enlist a local bakery.

Variety.

Can anyone say leftovers?

Photo: Pecan Pie, MyRecipes.com

Intimate Weddings Discusses Eco-Friendly Weddings at Focus Organic

There’s no better time to have an eco-friendly wedding. Why? Read my guest post about eco-friendly weddings over at Focus Organic. I was so pleased when Stefanie asked me to contribute. The website has lots of great ideas on living a green lifestyle!

A Ringbearer that Gives a Hoot: Hire an Owl for your Wedding

barn owl ringbearer

 An owl ringbearer? Amusing. Very Potteresque and also perfect for Goths. I prefer seeing owls in the woods, myself. Wedding ceremonies are intense enough without having to worry about an owl taking a mid-flight foo-foo on your Aunt Fanny’s head. Or worse dropping the ring and losing it forever. I’ll stick with the cute nephew on this one. Interesting nonetheless. 

Photo: From the Guardian. Ollie the barn owl with his handler Mike Roberts in training for the wedding of footballer Wes Brown Photograph: Christopher Thomond/Guardian

10 Tips for an Eco-Friendly Wedding

herb centerpieces for wedding

What’s the hottest colour for weddings? Green.

Green weddings, which only a few years ago were on the fringe, have gone mainstream.

There are ‘green’ favours, ‘green’ flowers, ‘green’ invitations and even ‘green’ gowns.

How do you know which ‘green’ ideas are going to make the greatest impact?

Here are 10 of the best ways to give Mother Earth a starring role at your nuptials:

1. Go Small. The fewer guests you have, the less fossil fuels that will be used. You’ll also consume less, and create less garbage. Having a small guest list will also give you more choice of venues. Why not have your small wedding at a designated green inn or have a restaurant reception at a restaurant that serves local food?

2. Buy Consumable Favours. Consumable favours are fun, fabulous and earth friendly. Some suggestions include diy favors such as homemade jam, chocolate, cookies, candy, free-trade coffee, beeswax candles, handmade soap or lotion. If you still want to take the non-consumable route, what about cloth shopping bags, reusable produce bags, or other products that will help your guests pursue an eco-friendly lifestyle? Don’t forget to include information about local shops that carry eco-friendly products along with your favours.

3. Don’t buy any favours. Another wonderful option for favours is to donate money to a charity in the names of each guest. The guest receives a card that informs him or her that instead of a favour, money was donated to a specific charity. Read more about favor donations here.

4. Be a ‘Locavore’. Choose a caterer or restaurant that sources ingredients locally. Buying local ingredients supports your area farmers, as well as decreases your carbon imprint. Even better, choose locally sourced organic foods, and offer vegetarian choices for your meat-free guests.

5. Have your Ceremony and Reception in the Same Location. This will mean less travel for you and your guests. Many inns and bed and breakfasts can accommodate both the ceremony and the reception.

6. Use Potted Plants instead of Cut Flowers for Centerpieces. I admit, I’m crazy about fresh flowers, but I also love the idea of being able to enjoy my centerpieces long after the wedding. Potted flowers are lovely – so are potted herbs and saplings.

7. Buy a Second Hand Wedding Dress and Bridesmaid Dresses. Have you seen some of the gorgeous vintage gowns at www.vintageous.com?

8. Ditch the Disposables. Don’t even think about having disposable cameras at your wedding. Chances are your guests will bring their own digital camera. You can even remind them in your invitation that you’d love for them to capture their wedding with their own camera and send you the images. And don’t forget the DIY wedding photo download station.

9. Don’t use Throwaway Dishes or Flatware. Use china dishes, flatware, cloth napkins and glasses instead of plastic cups. Not only will this save a ton of waste, it will look more elegant.

10. Scrap the Balloons and Confetti. Do you really need confetti? If you feel it’s a must, then use flower petals. Avoid balloons when decorating, as well as any other landfill bound decorations.

BTW, I recently got my hands on a review copy of The Green Bride Guide by Kate Harrison. Stay tuned for more great tips from the The Green Bride Guide, as well as a book review.

Photo: Miki Duisterhof

Buy Consumable Wedding Favors And Reduce Guilt Space

handmade soap lavender mint

Guilt space. We all have it. It might be on a bookcase, a shelf, on top of the fridge or inside a china cabinet. It might be on top of a cupboard, or inside a closet. It’s that designated space where objects that you-don’t-really-want-but-feel-obligated-to keep are gently placed.  Usually these are presents given to you by dear friends and relatives. These could be, but are not limited to: knick knacks depicting blonde, blue-eyed children holding puppies or decorative plates with snowy scenes of blonde blue-eyed women skating in fur coats. Or they could be wedding favors like the lucky elephant tea light holder that doesn’t match your décor or the Cinderella carriage wedding place card holder or the smiling Buddha place card holder that holds nothing but dust.

The last thing anyone needs is more guilt space. You don’t need it. Your wedding guests don’t need it. That’s why I am crazy about consumable DIY wedding favors. If you are having a small wedding, why not make cookies, fudge, truffles or homemade jam? You could also buy or make your own handmade soap, lotion, lip balm, bath bombs or candles. Your wedding guests will love you for it.

The last thing Mother Earth (and your guests) need is another knick knack.

Photo: Lavender Mint Soap from LilyBaySoap

Carnival Chic Wedding: Theme Wedding Big on Fun

carnival theme wedding

Maybe it’s the neutral grey-brown hues of a winter thaw that have me craving colour. Or maybe it’s all the work I’ve been doing lately that is making me crave something playful. Whatever it is, I’ve had carnivals and circuses on the brain lately and I’ve been thinking of how much fun it would be to have a ‘carnival-chic’ wedding. One with happy foods like candy apples, cotton candy, lemonade. One with bright colors, bold stripes and laughter. One that is playful, yet stylish. I created this ‘carnival themed’ inspiration board to transport my vitamin-D deprived winter self to a sunny, summer, carnival day.

Big top image: Flickr, user Vanessagx

Candy Apple image: Marcelo Salup, Salup.com

Balloon dart game image: LongIslandPhotoBlog.com, C. Lisinksi

Ticket Stub image: Emanuel Wiemans

Circus Poster: Ryanharte.com

 

Required Reading for the Bride-to-be: Rebecca Mead’s One Perfect Day

One Perfect Day Rebecca MeadThe Big White Wedding Industry 101 should be a mandatory course in university and Rebecca Mead’s book One Perfect Day: The Selling of the American Wedding should be required reading.

Since that’s not going to happen any time soon, I recommend to anyone who is engaged to read this book. It will open your eyes.

It tears back the curtain from the wedding industry and gives you a glimpse inside the big, white wedding machine. A machine that ain’t so pretty.

Read my review here.

Live Event Artist: Hire an On-Site Wedding Artist to Capture Your Wedding Day

Wedding Reception Painting by Live Event Artist Greg Kalamar

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Wedding Reception Painting by Live Event Artist Greg Kalamar

With all the money you’ll be saving by having a small wedding, you might want to splurge on a painted masterpiece starring you and your wedding guests.

A live event artist will capture your wedding day on canvas, as it unfolds. When the night is done you will go home with an incredible keepsake of your wedding.

Artists all over the continent are hiring themselves out as live event artists. One of the higher profile event artists is L.A’s Greg Kalamar.

Kalamar, whose preferred medium is acrylic on canvas,  is hired to paint at 25 weddings each year. He’s also covered a slew of other events such as Hollywood after-parties (including the official Grammy after-party) and rock concerts. His client list includes Geroge Clinton, Alice in Chains and Soundgarden.

I interviewed Greg Kalamar to find out a little about the painting process. Here is our interview:Wedding Reception Painting by Live Event Artist Greg Kalamar

Is it always during the reception that you paint?

A: Although receptions are most common, I’ve also studied (painted) ceremonies and rehearsal dinners. Most paintings are created in three to four hours.

Is there a standard size for the paintings?

A: There are standard sizes such as 36×24 inches and 48×30 inches but I also create custom sizes as requested.

Do you usually create just one painting during the event?

A: Yes. There is usually not enough time to paint more than one.

How much does it cost?

A: $3,000 for a 36×24 inch canvas and $3,500 for a 48×30 inch canvas.

Do the couples have input on what you paint? If so, do couples usually tell you what they want painted or do they let you choose?

A: Yes couples have input both beforehand and during the painting process. It is common for me to take requests to add certain people into the painting as they pose, dance, etc.

How would you describe your style?

A: I study real life in real time. The style can be called “impressionistic” or “figurative”.

Do the guests interact with you while you are painting?

A: Yes. I get questions like; “You put my daughter in the painting… Will you put my son in as well?” And I might answer; ” Go over to your son and carry on a conversation with him for five minutes and I will study you both into the painting candidly.

How did you get into live event painting for weddings?

A: My friend’s wife asked me to paint at her brother’s wedding reception as she liked my works done of real life in real time.

How long have you been doing live event paintings for weddings?

A: Sixteen years. That first wedding painting was done in 1993 and still hangs on the couple’s wall today.

Do you think this is a trend that is going to grow?

A: I think it is a growing trend. There seem to be more and more painters working as the years go by.

What if the wedding couple doesn’t like the painting?

A: I would add to the painting in the studio to please them. It has never happened.

What do you enjoy about doing this? (I am also an artist and I would find this nervewracking because I don’t like people watching me paint.)

A: I like the challenge of working live. I also enjoy interacting with people while I’m painting. The interaction helps to accurately tell the story with paint.

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Check out Greg’s website for more examples of his work.

For those of you who can’t afford to shell out three grand for a live event artist , there are lots of other options. Why not approach some of your favorite local artists? Although they might not market themselves as live event artists, they might be open to the idea and they might fit nicely into your budget. Another option is to approach your local art school and find out if a student would be interested in capturing your wedding day with paint.

Other live event artists to check out:

Laura Swytak

Gail Fitzpatrick

Miles Pelky

Paintings in this post by Greg Kalamar

The Incredible Shrinking Guest List

Yet again, a recent survey reveals that brides are cutting their guest lists.

Thanks to Christine Boulton from Think Like a Bride who blogged about the ‘What’s on Brides’ Minds’ Survey conducted for David’s Bridal. The survey says three quarters of brides-to-be admit that they will have to make adjustments to their wedding budgets as a result of the economic climate.  And where will they be cutting back? The survey revealed that the first area that brides-to-be would be willing to adjust is the number of guests (45% of brides polled said this.)

It’s inspiring that so many couples are seeing the benefits of smaller weddings.

In this January 23, 2009  National Post article, Cancel that White Stretch Limo also talks about the downsized guest list:

The National Post writes:

“Is Frugabridelista a word yet? If ever there were a moment for intimate weddings and austerity, isn’t this it?”

The article interviews several big shots in the wedding industry, including Bridal Guide Editor-in-chief Diane Forden. And what does Forden say will be the  number one item on the budget cuts hit list as more and more couples are impacted by the recession?

“I think it will be their guest list,” says Forden.

Smallelujah!

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